Is Divorce What You Want?

Many couples caught up in a spiral of conflict paint themselves into a corner.

An argument will build up into a huge catastrophe and in an outburst of anger one party will leave or say:
“I want a divorce”
…….often the response is……..
“Well if you think you want a divorce, I want a divorce even more”.

Then although it is not in fact what either party really wants, anger and pride, and hostility, will cement the situation.

If the couple separates at this time it is often impossible for them to even communicate meaningfully about the subject, and all communication ends up in argument.

Parents and friends will begin to meddle and encourage further turmoil or hearing only one side of the story and desperate to help their son or daughter will become violently opposed to the continuation of the marriage.

This is a time for serious reflection and a considered response.
This is a time not to act in anger, and not to ‘cut off your nose to spite your own face’.
This is a time to sit with your spouse and evaluate your life and where you have been and what you want to do.
It is a time to seek professional marital counseling.

Not necessarily with the aim of fixing the marriage, but more with resolving the conflict so that perhaps you will reconcile, But if not that you separate as the consequence of a logical mutually agreed decision, and with the aim of having a successful divorce.

This is a decision you will live with for the rest of your life. Make it carefully.