Successful Divorce

For many couples divorce or separation is not the end of anything. It is instead the beginning of a lifelong war of hate and destruction, causing endless pain to both parties and their families and costing thousands of dollars.

A divorce is the complex untangling of a life of sharing, everything has to be split, the finances the children the furniture the vehicles. The husband and wife obviously have two completely different realities at this point (otherwise they wouldn’t be divorcing), and any of these issues can cause a conflict.

The sad truth is that except for the wealthiest individuals everybody is going to be financially worse off you your spouse and the children.

The children will have to be managed and maintained for many years, they will bring the parents into contact.
To be truly over your marriage means to be able to see your ex as just another person, and to be able to relate amicably.

An unsuccessful divorce is one where two parties continue to be angry and fight, and cause pain to one another and to the children for decades after the event. Such couples should not have gotten divorced at all, because the divorce did not serve to resolve the conflict or achieve anything at all.

Getting a divorce might mean having to have mediation or separation counseling, it might mean having to get counseling to resolve the anger and bring peace.

A successful divorce means being able to enjoy a good working relationship with your ex and good relationships with your children, so you can share and continue to parent together.